It happens typically between couples when they are staying together even a long/short time, no matter staying in the same area or space. Does it mean that LOVE cannot last long? Does it mean that it is “so hard to get along with each other than love each other”? You can choose to kick away/ way back anytime before you marry if you really think so. However, once you get married and have your own children, you cannot break up for the reason of “so hard to get along with”. At least, you must have to learn how to adapt each other, know and feel each other more.
The elders of families usually have a wrong concept which, children would become bad if you praise them so much. What’s a pretty? This is really wrong.
This is a good example applying to the relationship between couples, especially for those women who has independent characters or for those single women. Those ladies recognize that boy friends or husbands cannot be self-righteous. Then, what happens? Making no compliments to their partner, only talking about how and why life is so difficult or whatever during every time of communications, conversations and talking. After a period of time, this kind of topics makes each other feeling hateful or repugnant. Even how much your half love and care about, or how considerate they are, they would have no interest to communicate and talk to those women again. For those married, you can take it as a kind of silent fighting inside a cage. How is the feeling? Bad, worse and the worst. It is no need to explain further more about the result. You might get it.
For boy friends and husbands, the age of male chauvinism had passed long time ago. You should learn what fair relationship is. In this modern world, the concept of marriage is different from before. Even though you are married or have children, it does not mean it must be always and forever. You should pay effort to maintain a fair relationship with your wives. You must not put all difficulties on your own shoulders, because your eyes show worries. Don’t believe that your silence will make your wives stopping worry about you. Relationship would become worse and worse just because of your silence.
Remain silence is not a way to fix problems and there will not be any winner in cold wars. When both of you feel angry and ready to argue, try to calm down first. It doesn’t mean that “calm down” can fix too. It is not a weapon or tool, but a way to let you talk and discuss after you are really “calm down” with a clear mind. Do you want the relationship end in a bad way? If not. Today, problems belong to you two only. You have to fix the problems by yourselves. If more and more people getting involved you may see who is wrong. However, even you are the right one, are you the real winner?
How to maintain a good relationship, it depends much on how you think and your ATTITUDE. Everything can be changed! Don’t put yourselves in a corner.
